Are we all just blagging it?

When I was a child I looked at my parents, teachers, coaches and thought they had the answers.

They had no problems and they were in full control.

Now, as an adult, I’ve realised that as you get older, nothing really changes apart from your body. No one has all the answers and most people just chug along in life, doing their best to look like they’ve got it together.

It’s funny, isn’t it?

We spend so much of our childhood waiting to “grow up,” thinking adulthood comes with a handbook. But when you finally get here, you realise there is no handbook. Just a never-ending series of choices, guesses, and lessons learned the hard way.

The people we once thought were unshakably confident were probably just doing what we’re all doing now — blagging it and hoping no one notices.

The truth is, everyone’s winging it to some degree. Some people are just better at hiding it. Behind every confident exterior is a person quietly wondering if they’re doing the right thing, if they’ve missed something, or if everyone else has life figured out but them. Spoiler alert: they don’t.

And maybe that’s the point. Maybe life isn’t about having all the answers — it’s about showing up, trying, failing, learning, and showing up again. It’s about giving yourself permission to not know everything, to make mistakes, and to realise that even the people you admire are making it up as they go along.

So next time you catch yourself thinking everyone else has it all sorted, remember this:

We’re all just blagging it — some with a bit more confidence, some with a bit more chaos — but all of us just trying to make sense of it as we go.